Jo-邱的共享空间

昨晚MSN遇见了Long  lost friends.我们03年认识，那时他们是情侣，C留了e-mail.可是这几年一直没有过联络，昨晚突然看见她上线，开始还没认出是谁，因为称呼改成了J&C，当发现是她时，真的很惊喜。时隔这么久居然又遇到了。她与J已经有两个孩子了，他们在中东，明天回去俄罗斯，其实他们都是美国人，永远在不停地旅行。她也很惊喜我们又遇见了，她问了我现在的情况，要我去facebook看她。看到了好多他们家庭的照片，他们现在有一个3岁的男孩子和一个10个月大的女儿，J是个好爸爸。照片很多，从她第一次怀孕，到现在。真的感慨女人最美的时候就是做了妈妈。家庭生活让她脸上有种温暖的美丽，一眼看去就可以感到她很幸福，幸福是藏不住的，会洋溢，会散发。她也由我第一次见到的那个sweet girl 变到了现在的pretty woman.真的由衷的为她高兴也不自觉的在心里希望自己也可以这么幸福。

我也常常和好友讨论有关个人与家庭的事。一个人是自由的，但是家庭确实是一个温暖的港湾。一个人可以去很多地方，做很多事，但心灵疲惫的时候是需要一个家的。家又有分别：与父母的家，与自己的配偶和孩子的家。总要完成从第一个家到第二个的过渡。

我也不明白现在的社会发生了什么，人人都在说不结婚也可以在一起，也听说现在的离婚率有多么高。可是我在这上面大概还是传统的，因为我无法判断同居的人构成的是不是家庭，至少在感情和感受上和传统意义的由婚姻过渡而来的家庭应该还是有区别的。

我个人想要的状态还是早早结婚生子呢。常常开玩笑说毕业就找个人赶快结婚生孩子。现在想想要是大学里有合适的就大学里结婚也是很好的，就怕父母不能接受：P但是这不是最大的问题，最大的问题是没有物质经济基础，要是物质经济条件达到了，我是愿意早早建立自己的家庭的。在这方面我是很赞赏一些美国人的做法，他们常常是结婚很早的人，这样确实能让一个人很快成熟。上次偶然在图书馆的一本有关小布什的书里看见他出生时老布什是耶鲁大学三年级的学生。我身边的很多人都会觉得美国人生活很随便，婚姻，家庭也是如此。我无法断言。可是我接触到的美国人对待婚姻和家庭的态度大约比中国人还要认真。我始终相信成功的婚姻建立起来的家庭是幸福的源泉，虽然我不能保证自己可以如愿的得到。也或许得到了又要抱怨还没自己背着行囊好好看看这世界就被婚姻，家庭困住了腿脚。也或许可以像C一样，全家一起到处不停的旅行，正好孩子也小小的时候就可以看过许多。

大概是看到人家的幸福，自己向往的幸福，心里又感慨了许多，就把自己的wishes记录在这里吧，过个5年10年再来看一定很有意思，不知到时又是怎样一番景象呢...

Parla più piano e nessuno sentirà
Il nostro amore lo viviamo io e te
Nessuno sa la verità
Neppure il cielo che ci guarda da lassù
Insieme a te
Io resterò
Amore mio
Sempre così
Parla più piano e vieni più vicino a me
Voglio sentire gli occhi miei dentro di te
Nessuno sa la verità
E' un grande amore e mai più grande esisterà  

 Then God spoke all these words:

I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery; you shall have no other gods before me.

You shall not make yourself an idol,whether in the form of anything that is in heaven above, or that is on the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I the LORD your God am a jealous God, punishing children for the iniquity of parents, to the third and the fourth generation of those who reject me, but showing steadfast love to the thousandth generation of those who love me and keep my commmandments.

You shall not make the wrongful use of the LORD your God, for the LORD your God willnot acquit anyone who misuses his name.

Remember the sabbath day, and keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work. But the seventh day is a sabbath to the LORD your God; you shall not do any work---you, your son or your daughter, your male or your female slave, your livestock,or the alien resident in your towns.

For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth , the sea, and all that is in them, but rested the seventh day; therefore the LORD blessed the sabbath day and consecrated it.

Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.

You shall not murder.

You shall not commit adultery.

You shall not steal.

You shall not bear false witness against your meighbor.

You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or male or female slave, or ox, or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.